Simple, they want to hook up with you.
More and more Chinese girls are getting desperate to hook up themselves with foreigners. I dunno why. Maybe they thought foreigners are all rich, or they are just over fashion? Because foreigners tend to treat women well, and they know how to make women happy.
My deduction may be very stupid, but, except my reason, I dunno any other reason.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/01/2009 01:59AM by Olive.

I think most Chinese girls are just great
I say that with the highest respect.
I sincerely enjoy talking to them so they can understand and improve their English. In return I get to speak to a beautiful girl for the night
I wouldn't say they were 'over friendly' they are friendly, and that's what counts. Just right
As a foreign man here in China,I look forward to a conversation with a nice Chinese girl, especially if I don't have to work to hard to understand her English. However, we all start some where.
They have so much to talk about, bursting with stories and events that need to be told, and yet English speaking persons seem to be in short supply.
I have many Chinese friends, who are all female, and we all meet and talk all night 'till late. Some times there are 3 to 4 of them, all waiting to take time with me to speak, and be spoken to.
I have a very healthy respect for the Chinese, and I enjoy their character, and mannerisms, they just seem so delightfully petite, and perfect.
The girls I meet, of which our very own Dana is one, ( Hello Dana )are looking for foreign friendship, nothing more, just a good friend that they can talk to, perhaps when their feelings are a little low.
Do they seem to feel more at ease talking to a foreigner perhaps? I don't know, but I certainly enjoy their company.

I do speak a lot slower when I am speaking to my Chinese friends, if I spoke my normal English speed, it would be of no help at all, and I am sure the girls would soon get tired and frustrated, missing the general conversation.
I like the way they pick out words that I use in every day common talk, but to them it is a new word, and they will pause me, and repeat it several times with me until they feel they have mastered it.

So back to the question, no they are not over friendly, they are just friendly, and that is the best way to be.
Don't change girls, just stay as cute, friendly, and as loving as as you all are now.

FM

Hi, I am Chinese girl, about the situation, maybe I could explain to you well.
1) First, many Chinese people are friendly with foreigner because Chinese is a friendly kind nation.

2) Sometime the manner seems to be over friendly that just because they want to communicate more with you to practice English, beacuse in current China, English is really become more and more important in work, mose of them you think over friendly is just hope to talk more with you to practice English[b]. So from this aspect, you are oversensitive.

3) Of course I admit there are some girls who have foreign dream, just like in your own country, there are gold digger, that take it for granted that maybe foreign person maybe bring her another total different life in future. But this is part, do not representative all Chinese girl, most Chinese girls are self respect, and of course only sincere, profound foreign friend is worthy to get our respect.

Xiaofran Wrote:
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> Hi, I am Chinese girl, about the situation, maybe
> I could explain to you well.
> 1) First, many Chinese people are friendly with
> foreigner because Chinese is a friendly kind
> nation. Hello Xiaofran, You have put the answer very good, before I came to China, I had no idea what to expect, as in England, we were alway told Chinese was not nice people, now I am here, I find the Chinese people to the best in the world, and far better than 99% of English persons.
>
> 2) Sometime the manner seems to be over friendly
> that just because they want to communicate more
> with you to practice English, beacuse in current
> China, English is really become more and more
> important in work, mose of them you think over
> friendly is just hope to talk more with you to
> practice English. So from this aspect, you are
> oversensitive.Again this is exactly what I find, the Chinese will smile and start conversation, this I like very much, I know they are practising their English on me, but that's OK, I really like conversation with interesting people, especially if Chinese girl, many of which are just so beautiful and kind
>
> 3) Of course I admit there are some girls who have
> foreign dream, just like in your own country,
> there are gold digger, that take it for granted
> that maybe foreign person maybe bring her another
> total different life in future.Also I am finding that Chinese girl often not want to leave China, I feel that Chinese girls feel they belong here in China, even when they know there is perhaps a better life in another country, they seem to feel a huge responsibility to China, this could be a problem getting a Chinese girl to leave China, not forever, as she (WE) would visit her home in China as often as she felt she need some 'China comfort' But this is part,
> do not representative all Chinese girl, most
> Chinese girls are self respect, and of course only
> sincere, profound foreign friend is worthy to get
> our respect.You may have read through my recent posts, and see that I am finding it very difficult to win the heart of this special Chinese girl. We have the very greatest of friendship, ant a nice affectionate friendship at that, but time will tell if she is the one for me.
I will make no secret that she is just so special to me, as far as 'gold digger go's, sure I can understand, the foreigner attraction, but my Chinese friend is adamant that she stay in China, even though I can offer her whatever she wants, it is not enough to part her from her dear China.
Maybe time will change her mind, I know already, she is willing to travel to other countries,

FM

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/12/2009 07:47PM by Foreignman.

Aren't Chinese people "over"everything?

-"Over" friendly. Its within Chinese culture to talk more softly with enthusiasm. Sometimes it just becomes an act. You can say the dumbest thing and they will still cheer about how smart you are. Reason why the Chinese culture repels criticism so harshly because they are not use to absorb useful ciriticsm to improve oneself. Key term FACE.
-The wealth/class gap is "over" widened and still widening.
-They "over" work people. With lots of Overtime work but no over time pay, that's is truely overworking people. And yes they did overwork their athletes otherwise they wouldn't have gotten so many medals at the olympics.
-Their ambitions are "Over" the top. In history it was so over the top they killed a lot of their own people to build the great wall. As humble as Chinese people may seem. Deep down they want to kick your ass at everything.
-"Over" Generous and "Over" Scandalous. I heard donations Sichuan Earth Quake
were given in huge numbers, but also heard a lot of charities were scams just taking the money and running away.
-"Over"Spending or "Over"Cheap. You don't really see many being moderate at this. They either have the face factor and be a big spender or just love saving and be a miser.
-Their education is "over" strict.
-Their gaming mentality is "over" extreme. It will only take a decade before China takes over Korea's Gaming Insanity.

Moroes Wrote:
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> Aren't Chinese people "over"everything?
>
> -"Over" friendly. Its within Chinese culture to
> talk more softly with enthusiasm. Sometimes it
> just becomes an act. You can say the dumbest
> thing and they will still cheer about how smart
> you are. Reason why the Chinese culture repels
> criticism so harshly because they are not use to
> absorb useful ciriticsm to improve oneself. Key
> term FACE.
> -The wealth/class gap is "over" widened and still
> widening.
> -They "over" work people. With lots of Overtime
> work but no over time pay, that's is truely
> overworking people. And yes they did overwork
> their athletes otherwise they wouldn't have gotten
> so many medals at the olympics.
> -Their ambitions are "Over" the top. In history
> it was so over the top they killed a lot of their
> own people to build the great wall. As humble as
> Chinese people may seem. Deep down they want to
> kick your ass at everything.
> -"Over" Generous and "Over" Scandalous. I heard
> donations Sichuan Earth Quake
> were given in huge numbers, but also heard a lot
> of charities were scams just taking the money and
> running away.
> -"Over"Spending or "Over"Cheap. You don't really
> see many being moderate at this. They either have
> the face factor and be a big spender or just love
> saving and be a miser.
> -Their education is "over" strict.
> -Their gaming mentality is "over" extreme. It
> will only take a decade before China takes over
> Korea's Gaming Insanity.


sad person

Extraordinary Wrote:
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> Simple, they want to hook up with you.
Sure they want to hook up
> More and more Chinese girls are getting desperate
> to hook up themselves with foreigners.
I don't think desperate is a good word, many Chinese are very happy in China, perhaps the girl I have found is the only one that wants to live in China?I dunno
> why. Maybe they thought foreigners are all rich,
I really hope money has nothing to do with affection
> or they are just over fashion? Because foreigners
> tend to treat women well,
I would hope all men, treat women well, but this isn't the case, I like to feel as a Westener, from England, I look after my Chinese friend very well.
When we are out walking, maybe by the sea front in Yantai, I ask her a simple question, how does she feel when she is out walking with me? (I am a few years older than her, and I am aware of this,) and her first reply was'she feels pride' when we are out.and they know how to
> make women happy.
> My deduction may be very stupid, but, except
> my reason, I dunno any other reason.
In an ideal world, there should be no barriers of culture or other stuff I don't even like to talk about, that would prevent two people enjoying each other for life.

FM

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/12/2009 07:59PM by Foreignman.

Foreignman Wrote:
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Sure they want to hook up
Not all want to date foreigners but just be friends.
I don't think desperate is a good word, many Chinese are very happy in China, perhaps the girl I have found is the only one that wants to live in
China? You called me a sad person pointing out that their "Over" ways. But you know a lot of girls go for foreigners so they don't have to go by Chinese traditions. Marrying a Chinese guy and living with his parents under the same roof.
I really hope money has nothing to do with affection
Money? Plays some what of a role. You don't have to be a millionare but financially stable guys that can cover all the needs is what girls want. And epxats do all look like they are stable financially. Once the worry of money is off their head they can focus on other things about their man. There was an article doing a survey on Chinese gold diggers and their desired annual income from a man is 100,000 rmb/year. That number isn't very gold digging but really just proves they just need some financial stabilty.

But you want to know what I think is the main factor. I think these girls are all out mixing themselves because they know life is too damn short to just have everything Chinese. Reason why I find most Chinese girl's dream is to travel to as many places as possible.

Moroes Wrote:
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> Foreignman Wrote:
> ------------------------
> Sure they want to hook up
> Not all want to date foreigners but just be
> friends.
Yes, this is more to the point
> I don't think desperate is a good word, many
> Chinese are very happy in China, perhaps the girl
> I have found is the only one that wants to live in
>
> China? You called me a sad person pointing out
> that their "Over" ways.
I should have re phased my reply, but it sounded very harsh to me, as ifind so many Chinese very open and welcoming But you know a lot of
> girls go for foreigners so they don't have to go
> by Chinese traditions. Marrying a Chinese guy and
> living with his parents under the same roof.
Living under the same roof, Are you sure this still happens, I think it happened in the past, but not for the past 40 years I think. Doesn't the boys family provide the house for them, if they can, ?
> I really hope money has nothing to do with
> affection
> Money? Plays some what of a role. You don't have
> to be a millionare but financially stable guys
> that can cover all the needs is what girls want.
That is also true, that generally speaking, foreigners are more secure, and are able to offer the right Chinese girl of his choice, so much more than she could ever expect in China, but not all girls need this, some are prepared to struggle their whole life, and this is what I find so difficult to understand, one girl told me some thing along the lines of 'she was never put on this planet to be happy, she was only put here to make sure every one else was happy, and if that meant dying for China, then so be it '
> And epxats do all look like they are stable
> financially. Once the worry of money is off their
> head they can focus on other things about their
> man.
Sure having sufficient money does remove a lot of worry, but the money has to be earned, no one gives me my money for nothing,I don't hold an abundance of money in high favour, some times it works against you There was an article doing a survey on
> Chinese gold diggers and their desired annual
> income from a man is 100,000 rmb/year. That
> number isn't very gold digging but really just
> proves they just need some financial stabilty.
Without starting any sort of ill feeling, I can safly say that all the foreigners here will pass that mark many times over
The general salary in my office is a bit more than that, but that doesn't matter one little bit, if the girl is not interested in money, and this is where I am stuck.
>
> But you want to know what I think is the main
> factor. I think these girls are all out mixing
> themselves because they know life is too damn
> short to just have everything Chinese. Reason why
> I find most Chinese girl's dream is to travel to
> as many places as possible.
I have said to my girl, if I can call her that, that we can live in any country in the world, even China
or how about we take a few years off work, and just drive around the world and see properly all the countries, instead of doing the easy option of flying

Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 08/13/2009 11:37AM by Foreignman.

Xiaofran Wrote:
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> Hi, I am Chinese girl, about the situation, maybe
> I could explain to you well.
> 1) First, many Chinese people are friendly with
> foreigner because Chinese is a friendly kind
> nation.

I hate this answer. Sorry I dont' mean to be rude but it's just so fake. China is a friendly nation like all nations are friendly. And there is a lot of unfriendliness hidden in China just like in all nations. To people who come here for a bit and leave China LOOKS more friendly because they haven't really gotten involved with the community. China, in terms of friendliness, is the same as all countries. It's neither better nor worse.

> 2) Sometime the manner seems to be over friendly
> that just because they want to communicate more
> with you to practice English, beacuse in current
> China, English is really become more and more
> important in work, mose of them you think over
> friendly is just hope to talk more with you to
> practice English. So from this aspect, you are
> oversensitive.

Very true especially around University areas.

> 3) Of course I admit there are some girls who have
> foreign dream, just like in your own country,
> there are gold digger, that take it for granted
> that maybe foreign person maybe bring her another
> total different life in future. But this is part,
> do not representative all Chinese girl, most
> Chinese girls are self respect, and of course only
> sincere, profound foreign friend is worthy to get
> our respect.

Exactly. Every country is the same. If a bunch of rich Chinese guys started coming to Canada and living comfortable happy lives taking Canadian girls back to China to live rich lives there would be more Gold Digging Canadian girls being overfriendly to Chinese guys. It's just the situation here that creates this idea of over friendliness. If English didn't matter and Foreign guys had the same lives as Chinese there would be no over friendliness.

Foreignman Wrote:
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> In return I
> get to speak to a beautiful girl for the night
>
> I wouldn't say they were 'over friendly' they are
> friendly, and that's what counts. Just right
> As a foreign man here in China,I look forward to a
> conversation with a nice Chinese girl, especially
> if I don't have to work to hard to understand her
> English. However, we all start some where.
> They have so much to talk about, bursting with
> stories and events that need to be told, and yet
> I have many Chinese friends, who are all
> female, and we all meet and talk all night 'till
> late. Some times there are 3 to 4 of them, all
> waiting to take time with me to speak, and be
> spoken to.
>> The girls I meet, of which our very own Dana is
> one, ( Hello Dana )are looking for foreign
> friendship, nothing more, just a good friend that
> they can talk to, perhaps when their feelings are
> a little low.
> I like the way they pick out words that I use in
> every day common talk, but to them it is a new
> word, and they will pause me, and repeat it
> several times with me until they feel they have
> mastered it.
>
> Don't change girls, just stay as cute, friendly,
> and as loving as as you all are now.
>
> FM

Yeh But be carrefull in your message their is something i would like to tell . With the girls Chinese or others their is always a trick .
A girl when you stay during hour talking with her basic conversation or even laughing , and during hour you don't dare telling her that you want to kiss her and open her skirt . she think you are somebody that don't dare and that you are an idiot .

then she will use you . the girls like to show , and if their is a boy that can listen to them , they will use him and telling about her live during hours . and never go for you .

And the one that stays without speaking about himself , and that admire the girl , get no chance to catch her .
the conversation must be equal . you explain your live and your success for half the conversation , and she explain her live and her success for half the conversation .
the girls go for the men that by speaking show that they are capable .


always chose a girl with the same beauty level as you . let's talk half an hour one hour maximum , then you see if she is interesting , you feel it .
then you said it : i thing we should get closer , we suit together and you laugh for half an hour .
or it's a waist of time . admire a girl will bring nothing to you .

then she agree or not .
If not , it doesn't matter , you did your job very well . a few days after the next one will say : oh yeh,,, let's do that ,,,.

if she says no or hesitated , she will think he is brave he dare , he is a man , he is confident .

never let girls talking about her live during hours . from all countries .

we are better than them , we built the building , the road , the plane , the computers , the electricity network .... they can't do that .
the girls have to admire us also .

Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 09/12/2009 01:39AM by Leopard.

Quote:
we are better than them , we built the building , the road , the plane , the computers , the electricity network .... they can't do that .
the girls have to admire us also .

Yeah... because girl's brains are smaller than ours. they can't do complicated things like work and vote. They can only bake me pies and clean my clothes!

Don't be sexist, girls are just as capable of building things as guys are. I have a friend who works for Manitoba Hydro installing Electrical Networks.

And there isn't just ONE way to talk to Chinese girls, some like a guy who is very forward some like shy guys, some like guys who make them laugh and some like guys who don't.

I just wanted to reply to foreignman .

He was too much saying the girls are beautiful . let’s admire them during hours and hours . sit
during nights watching and listen to beautiful girls . And absolutely dare nothing .

Heeeyyy it’s a no result situation . that’s not the way to do things with girl . Never staying long
time admire them .


for the beauty , we boy admire the girl slim with shape where it needs to be . But the girl in the
same way admire the strong side of the men . they dream of our muscles biceps . They dream
of a men that run a 20 employees company also . Or other successful men successful in his
work .
it’s equal . we dream of their long slim legs and their bubs hidden behind the skirt , they dream
exactly the same of our shoulders and biceps . Not admire them . We have to provide muscles or
work success that make them dreaming also .
Just for example find one at the same beauty level as yours , and think : i have strong shoulders
and biceps she will be interested in that , or i run a 20 employees company she will be
interested in that . ok girl i have some interest in your shape . In fact you like it very much her
shape but don’t tell her . with the girls always faking to be not too much interested .
Then you said let’s relax ourselves , it’s good for the mood of we both .

but not admire them . always thinking how you capable are .



For the work Ubreche , all our modern world the bridges the highway the electricity network the
computer ... of course the girl have a brain like our , sure .

At school they have good results , degrees , they work hard for giving a good image of
themselves .

But for the 50 years of work , the real part , the real challenge , It’s mainly the men that do it :
to built this modern world , this building the modern world highway computers ships
construction ...field contains 90 % of men . We do that .

Then not admire them . like them , make them laugh ...but not admire .

I don't know where you are from but you have a VERY male centrist view of the world. AKA: You're sexist.

So basically you're saying that you don't need the...

Circular saw
Dam and reservoir construction
Anti-Fungal Anti-biotic
Vacuum
Car Heater
COBOL
Elevated Roadways
Drinking Fountains
Car Mufflers
Fire Escapes
Grain Storage Bins
Kevlar (Bullet Proof Vests)
Life Rafts
Medical Syringes
Non-Reflective Glass
Refrigerators
Safety devices for Elevators
Street Cleaning Machines
Washing machines

because those and MANY MANY more products people use everyday were invented by women. Yes Men invent more but this is mostly because until 60 years ago in the West and even today in many other countries around the world men also force women to stay home and cook and clean for them.

Now day's women do all the things men do and do it just as well. You're sexist attitude of liking women but not admiring them is just sad and more fitting for the 1930's... not 2009...

xiaofran wrote:
Hi, I am Chinese girl, about the situation, maybe I could explain to you well.
1) First, many Chinese people are friendly with foreigner because Chinese is a friendly kind nation.

ha,it's typical governmenmt taught brainwashed things,chinese government teach it's people that the chinese,chinese goverment,chinese army is most righteous in world.

guys,i want to say that is normal status even u go to any other country.chinese girls friendly,and u should be respect with them.

I am not sexist but a chauvinist. I just adore women. Are they over friendly? Only if you are extremely rich and they want something from you. Otherwise they are normal as far as I know.

I can't be bother read all the posts too long.
But i never found chinese girls to be over friendly girls is girls as astro says if they want something then maybe they would be but i got nowt to give them

Wenart Wrote:
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> 1seiyawing Wrote:
> --------------------------------------------------
> -----
> > Yeah
> >
> > That is the situation in our collage
> > 1/3 male and 2/3 famale
> > Maybe it is bad news to homos.
> > But good news to straights.
> >
> > And i think,
> > A girl with a good face always has a bad
> > character.
> > A girl with a good character always has a bad
> > face.
> > If a girl has both good face and good
> character,
> > she had a boyfriend too,already ..
>
> hmmm, thats is a good point
> but I preffer a girl with a good character more
> than a girl with a bad attitude, even if she was
> ugly, every human will be ugly when they are old,
> it is just a matter of time.
>
> if I married a beautifull woman with a bad
> attitude, and when we re getting old together,
> will be hell for me??? (yeah ugly and bad
> attitude ??)


haha,ugly and bad attitude,,,good,good to explore

sometimes, we call this kind of grils:JIAN
They think a foreign BF can give them what they expect,but the result is fuk and leave

Move to Vancouver. You will not have to worry about the Chinese there being overly friendly

Shiningrose786 Wrote:
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> if they are friendly then they are great chinese u
> must need to give them respect


Agree.

Yes, if you are white.

Some are good ones, but you might not have the luck getting to know them.

I missed out on what Xiaofran wrote and I fully agree. Countries like China and Vietnam are friendlier than say, France or Australia. It's safer, too. At least you know you won't get shot at in some dark alleys.

Are Chinese girls over friendly? I think most westerners only have contacts with the lower class women in China, street walkers etc and they mistakenly think they are representative of all Chinese women. Those women are merely "working" or soliciting for business. So wake up, westerners! Chinese girls are NOT over friendly.


Xiaofran Wrote:
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> Hi, I am Chinese girl, about the situation, maybe
> I could explain to you well.
> 1) First, many Chinese people are friendly with
> foreigner because Chinese is a friendly kind
> nation.
>
> 2) Sometime the manner seems to be over friendly
> that just because they want to communicate more
> with you to practice English, beacuse in current
> China, English is really become more and more
> important in work, mose of them you think over
> friendly is just hope to talk more with you to
> practice English. So from this aspect, you are
> oversensitive.
>
> 3) Of course I admit there are some girls who have
> foreign dream, just like in your own country,
> there are gold digger, that take it for granted
> that maybe foreign person maybe bring her another
> total different life in future. But this is part,
> do not representative all Chinese girl, most
> Chinese girls are self respect, and of course only
> sincere, profound foreign friend is worthy to get
> our respect.

Astroboy Wrote:
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> I missed out on what Xiaofran wrote and I fully
> agree. Countries like China and Vietnam are
> friendlier than say, France or Australia. It's
> safer, too. At least you know you won't get shot
> at in some dark alleys.

Just as easy to get robbed and mugged in the East as int he West, I know way more rape victims in China than anywhere else I've been as well.

> Are Chinese girls over friendly? I think most
> westerners only have contacts with the lower class
> women in China, street walkers etc

Because you're a retard.

what wrong if they are overfriendly.. ??...i think it is chinese culture to be polite...?
girls are no gold digger..god has made them in a way that they get attracted to a man who seems to possess wealth and power ( they beleive foreigners do ) for the sake of security.......similarly Men gets attracted to the facial beauty ....
i think this topic is a waste of time?....if u r china learn to accept there culture......

Only Chinese peasants still think foreigners are rich. The world's wealth is now in Chinese hands - both in China and abroad. Think Li Ka Shing, Robert Kuok, Stanley Ho etc.

Even Warren Buffett is now making trips to China to learn more.

Hello！
I am Jessie and I'm Chinese.
Could you please tell me what does XD mean?
I just want to tell you that most Chinese people are friendly, whether male or female.
Sometimes we appear to be too friendly to foreigners just because we want to show them our courtesy.
Many westerners may have misunderstanding about China and her people, and what we are doing now is to change the bad image.