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Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Jay (IP Logged)
Date: April 17, 2007 12:59AM
I have read on a forum, that Chinese people do not have all those strict politeness rules when eating as in western culture.

Is it true that while having dinner with guest in China you can:
- make mouth noises (slurping, chewing, ...);
- speak while chewing and let everybody see the content of your mouth;
- spit the food you don't want to swallow on the table or on the ground;
- belch or eructate;
- leave the table when you're done without waiting for other people.

I'm a little bit confuse right now...

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: ceren (IP Logged)
Date: June 19, 2007 05:33PM
and i was wondering if chinese people really eat cats dogs and i even heard that they eat FETUS!!! i mean those strict politeness rules are not important at all if they are really doing that

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: avianite (IP Logged)
Date: June 20, 2007 05:50AM
Yeah, like my host family doesn't seem to think of table manners as a very broad term.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: dshowgina (IP Logged)
Date: June 28, 2007 10:16PM
Dear Jay,
Chinese people do have table manners, and the above-mentioned will not take place in public place, especially when have meals with strangers. In acient China, there is an old saying: "eating and sleeping without any words", which asks people to keep silence when eating and sleeping. however, this rule doesn't apply to most chinese now. they talk and communicate when eating together, and believe they can enhance intimacy and know each other better through this way. Thus, Chinese usually prefer to negociate business at dinner table. but the other bahaviors you mentioned above are also not encouraged and will be regarded as rude in china. however, table manners are not so strict if you are family members or intimate friends.
Overally, chinese table manner is different with western countries', but what really matters is our goodwill and sincirity. hope to have dinner with you, so we can learn more from each other grinning smiley

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/31/2007 05:29AM by Olive.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: kwaijita (IP Logged)
Date: July 31, 2007 12:01AM
Some Chinese are like this especially in poor chinese provinces.
I've been to Inner Mongolia and I've noticed that they even spit on the floor right in front of you...

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/31/2007 05:29AM by Olive.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: greentea (IP Logged)
Date: August 13, 2007 07:05PM
dont blow your nose loudly when you are in the restaurant.

i hate people spitting, especially see people spitting when they are on their bikes.

chinese people eat dogs and cats

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: scarof (IP Logged)
Date: August 19, 2007 09:29AM
Not so bad as you said.

And Most Chinese don't eat cats except Cantonese,
I feel they can eat everything that can eat.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: scarof (IP Logged)
Date: August 19, 2007 09:45AM
I don't like Cantonese, they are so smart and their Mandarin is so bad .
Cats are so lovely and they eat them actually.
I feel the shame Because they are Chinese.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: asia (IP Logged)
Date: August 27, 2007 11:05PM
i have several chinese friends and perhaps it depends on their upbringing. many are those you called "educated or professional ones" and all those things are not visible to them. the possibility are with those people who grew up with those manners specially in the remote areas in china. but i have learned also something here..thanks!

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: 1ripper1 (IP Logged)
Date: September 14, 2007 10:41AM
i heard from a chinese person one time about them cooking cat for dinner. is this true?? and how do they get away with that?

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: magudo (IP Logged)
Date: September 27, 2007 01:21AM
do chicken, pigs, and cows can feel hurt?
yes.
then why do you eat them?
you dont eat cats and dogs just because they looks cute, and eat other meat just because other animals dont looks cute?

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: nutrigrain (IP Logged)
Date: October 13, 2007 05:42AM
My roommate is from Hong Kong, although he's been in the States for over a decade. He'll often order pizzas to the room.

The first time I heard him eat- to be completely honest with you guys- I was horrified. The lip-smacking as he chewed with his mouth wide-open was so loud and obnoxious it was like something out of a sitcom. Slurping, loud chewing, and countless burps would follow. At first I thought he was doing all of it on purpose to be funny and annoy me, but no...that's how he ate!

Eventually I got used to it. I've often thought of mentioning it to him to give him a heads up for the future, although I've never had the guts. But yeah...just another strange cultural difference between roommates.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: rose_C (IP Logged)
Date: October 22, 2007 09:08AM
Quote:
Magudo Wrote: Do chicken, pigs, and cows can feel hurt? Yes.
Then why do you eat them? You dont eat cats and dogs just because they looks cute, and eat other meat just because other animals dont looks cute?
Totally agreed!

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 01/16/2008 08:04PM by Olive.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: rose_C (IP Logged)
Date: October 22, 2007 09:22AM
three thousand years ago, Kong Fu Zi don't even eat without the food displaying nicely.

in the ancient time, only the rich family have table manner. my grandparents were born in rich families. they cares table manner. like don't spk on the table, always put the chopsticks down while holding the bowl.
but the poor families can barely have enough to eat, not even to mention caring abt manners.

and interestingly: the most important chinese table manner is where to sit on the table.
where to sit shows the status and the power. this is the most important --part of the culture. i don't like it, but it is the way it is.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 10/22/2007 09:23AM by rose_C.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: yunhan (IP Logged)
Date: November 06, 2007 10:10AM
Quote:
Dshowgina Wrote: Dear Jay, Chinese people do have table manners, and the above-mentioned will not take place in public place, especially when have meals with strangers. [...]
Overally, chinese table manner is different with western countries', but what really matters is our goodwill and sincirity. hope to have dinner with you, so we can learn more from each other grinning smiley
Yes. I agree with you. You discribed the facts.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 01/16/2008 08:06PM by Olive.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: DavyJam (IP Logged)
Date: December 07, 2007 05:35AM
Quote:
Magudo Wrote: Do chicken, pigs, and cows can feel hurt? Yes.
Then why do you eat them? You don't eat cats and dogs just because they looks cute, and eat other meat just because other animals dont looks cute?
I am from the UK and I also agree 100% with what magudu has said.

Interestingly in the UK we keep rabbits as pets, but there are also people in the UK who eat rabbits. We keep fish as pets, but we also eat fish. In my opinion this is exactly the same kind of thing as having cats and dogs as pets, but also using them for food. The fact they may be "cute" is irrelevant.

All animals feel pain, but at the end of the day mankind, through it's intelligence, is at the top of the foodchain. If you are a person who eats meat it is hypocritical to speak negatively about other cultures that also eat meat, just because the meat that they eat is different!

I also guarantee you, that if you where starving and your life depended on it, you would eat anything regardless of how cute it was.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 01/16/2008 08:07PM by Olive.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Kerou85 (IP Logged)
Date: January 16, 2008 05:14PM
Actually, the thought of eating cats and dogs just makes me want to puke!
However, I live in America and most people here love to eat cows. The thought of eating cows also makes me very sick, but most people all over the world seem to really enjoy cow meat! Anyways... if I were seriously starving I would eat whatever necessary (except people). Fish, Goat, Cow, Racoon, Dog, Cat, Rabbit... doesn't matter... I'd eat it for survival!

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 01/16/2008 08:08PM by Olive.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: resinsoft (IP Logged)
Date: January 20, 2008 10:22PM
sorry about my rough drawing.

sometimes i do it because i could't find a place to put my chopsticks,but i know this is no good.


yes, the postion is alway the most important


can you understand this?

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Jay (IP Logged)
Date: January 21, 2008 07:54AM
Haha, thanks Shiming!
Your examples you gave show that there are no difference between European countries and China.
1. While eating people sometimes put their fork and knife'top on the plate.
2. When the table is not round, the elder (grand father, or father) is a the beginning of the table.
The 3rd one, I've had a lot of "ganbei" in China, never heard about it...

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: resinsoft (IP Logged)
Date: January 21, 2008 08:12AM
Quote:
Jay Wrote: Haha, thanks Shiming!
Your examples you gave show that there are no difference between European countries and China.
1. While eating people sometimes put their fork and knife'top on the plate.
2. When the table is not round, the elder (grand father, or father) is a the beginning of the table.
The 3rd one, I've had a lot of "ganbei" in China, never heard about it...
It's very weird, my mom told me yesterday that she just heard the 3rd rule recently as well. But I've already known it for many years, maybe because i had too much drinking with my mates...

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/13/2008 01:01AM by Olive.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Jay (IP Logged)
Date: January 21, 2008 08:40AM
Quote:
Had too much drinking with my mates!
嘿嘿...

Concerning the "Ganbei" in Europe, I have heard an explanation.
A long time ago, when two tribe chiefs were meeting, they would fear having some poison in their glass. So by "hurting" the two glasses, the contents of one glass would flush into the other one. The two chiefs were "mixing" the contents of their glasses, as a garanty for not having poisoning it.

It's probably just a legend.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: resinsoft (IP Logged)
Date: January 21, 2008 09:08AM
an european legend.
because we haven't got any "tribes" for thousands years

"ganbei" in China means"喝掉杯里的饮料,并且一点也不剩”(i really don't know how to say it in english.it's like this"to drink them all,leave nothing in the cup")

when i was young,i heard people said“感情浅,添一添;感情深,一口闷。”
that means when you cheers with your friends,if you only have an average relationship with them,you don't want to play real,you just drink a little each time.if you guys are good friends,and you want to show them your loyalty or friendship,then you "ganbei"

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: resinsoft (IP Logged)
Date: January 21, 2008 09:25AM
let me back to the main topic of this thread now.
do we really have eating rules?
i think we have,but lots of people now are losing them,we are losing those traditional cultures which are very important to us.
so what makes it happens?or who?
everyone has their own answers.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Jay (IP Logged)
Date: January 21, 2008 07:30PM
Quote:
An european legend. Because we haven't got any "tribes" for thousands years.
Well tribe is probably not the right term for Europe too.
The legend explain that when too old ennemies where drinking after having made peace, it was a way to show their new trust.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: resinsoft (IP Logged)
Date: January 21, 2008 07:47PM
probably it's the term for the aborigines?-_-#

........a interested story anyway.......thank you.........

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Cmotow (IP Logged)
Date: April 01, 2008 10:09AM
You can try do these with Chinese on table,then you can know true or false.

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Tiber (IP Logged)
Date: April 09, 2008 11:20AM
I thought the cheers and good health came from an italian family that was very powerful and would back stab each other. To show there trust they would lift there cups and say cheers clink the cups and the content would slush fromone cup to the other so the drinks would mix. In england we say cheers regularly when with families and good health. Its just a congratulatory thing now. Also to show you are mates. And for good luck in the future. So comes the saying,'Cheers and good health.'

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Paulaliciousz (IP Logged)
Date: April 29, 2008 01:54AM
is it really true that chinese eat fetuses?...is it even allowed?...I think it's punishable by the law...how could they eat such a thing of the same human race?...

Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Anata (IP Logged)
Date: May 22, 2008 01:46AM
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Re: Chinese eating politeness rules
Posted by: Lanrenku8 (IP Logged)
Date: June 06, 2008 05:29AM
GOOD POINTS!
EXACTLY WHAT I WANT TO SAY.

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